At the beginning of a relationship, everything seems exciting and fresh.
But what happens when seemingly small, repetitive actions begin to erode the foundations of trust and fairness? One woman found herself in a disturbing pattern with her boyfriend that she could no longer ignore.
Despite the joy of their moments together, something wasn’t working. As the months passed, every time they went out for dinner, a frustrating and suspicious situation began to unfold. What started as a minor annoyance turned into a major source of tension.
Was it just forgetfulness or was there something more going on? Let’s dive into the details of what happened when she finally decided to act, and how the reactions to her response unfolded.
After a few months of dating, the woman began to notice a recurring problem every time they went out to dinner. Eventually, she became frustrated with the situation and decided to act on her feelings.
A 32-year-old woman and her 39-year-old boyfriend, who had two young children, had a heated argument after nine months of dating because of a pattern of behavior he was exhibiting. The woman then took to Reddit seeking feedback on whether her reaction was justified.
She was troubled by her actions because the situation often took place in front of her boyfriend’s children, and he accused her of being selfish for not considering their needs. The woman explained that they regularly dined once a week, a tradition his children enjoyed. However, her boyfriend always “forgot” his wallet at home whenever they went out to eat.
At first, the woman didn’t mind, but as time went on, she found herself paying the bill every time. After paying for several dinners over the past month, she began to feel financially drained.
One evening, after receiving a paycheck from her second part-time job, the woman reminded her boyfriend to bring his wallet and expected the usual forgetfulness. He laughed at that and dismissed her message.
When they arrived at the restaurant, her friend’s children ordered a large amount of food, which the woman said was quite expensive. The woman checked her friend’s wallet one more time before starting to eat. He seemed surprised by her question, and as he patted his pockets he sheepishly admitted, “I guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans I thought I’d wear.”
A frustrated woman gathered her things and was about to leave the restaurant without food. Her friend then asked if she could cover the cost this time.
As she started to leave, he called after her and asked where she was going. She replied that she was not willing to pay for him and his children again.
Later that night, a friend called her to accuse her of being selfish for leaving him and his children in this situation. The woman fought back, saying she didn’t think it was fair to pay for food on every date.
Claiming that she didn’t care about him or his children, he criticized her for leaving, pointing out that because of her he had to cancel a food order and send his children home without food.
After their argument, the boyfriend told the woman to change her mind about how she treated his children. He repeated that her actions were selfish, so he let them starve.
The woman shared the story on Reddit and revealed that her boyfriend was still mad at her for what happened at the restaurant. When the Reddit community weighed in, most agreed that the boyfriend was taking advantage of her generosity.
In the end, it appears the woman’s frustration was not just about repeatedly forgetting her boyfriend’s wallet, but rather a growing feeling that she was being taken advantage of. After being put in the position of constantly paying for food regardless of her own financial well-being, she finally took a stand. The friend’s response – accusing her of being selfish and overlooking the situation – only highlighted his lack of responsibility.
Advice from Reddit users largely sided with the woman, agreeing that her boyfriend’s actions were unfair and manipulative. This situation serves as a reminder that relationships should be built on mutual respect and understanding and that it is important to resolve issues before they escalate into bigger problems. The woman’s decision to speak up may have been uncomfortable, but it was a necessary step in setting boundaries and ensuring that her needs and feelings were respected.
